We all have things in our lives that we hold on to-memories, possessions, relationships, weight, etc. Some of these things nurture us while others become harmful drags on time and resources. One of our responsibilities in life is evaluate the people, places and things in our lives and determine their proper place.
Sometimes the decision is easy. "I don't like liver" for example. This quite easily relegates liver to something you won't eat. However, some decisions are not quite that cut and dry. In fact, making a determination on one aspect of your life may in fact bring to light other decisions that need to be made.
"Do I want this friend in my life?" becomes a much more involved process. First you have to determine what qualities the person brings to your life, both positive and negative. How do you feel around them? Happy? Sad? Angry? Content? Frustrated? At east? When you spend time together, do you think about what you're doing together or are you contemplating the moment you are able to leave their company? Consider your history together. Did they serve a purpose in your life at one point that is no longer necessary. Perhaps their companionship helped you through a rough patch or crisis that is over. Is their friendship still a strong, vibrant part of your life or is it waning and draining.
Once you've made the decision to let a friendship go, the next step is determining the method of release. Sometimes, you can let time and distance do the parting. A gradual drift. Not making the effort to spend time together. In the case of toxic relationships, it may be necessary to actually tell the person why you are no longer spending time with them.
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